A woman's real power is balance
Self, work, partner, friends, children, parents, the women who hold every sphere in balance live fuller, happier lives. That balancing, she says, not any one achievement, is where a woman's real strength lies.
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A strong woman keeps everything in balance
Event decorator, blogger and mother of three Ayyan Salahova on why a woman's real power is balance, why being professional is no longer enough without presentation, why she plays the long game with clients, and why a woman must never forget herself.
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Watch on YouTube →A concert pianist who became one of the city's event decorators, blogger and mother of three, Ayyan Salahova has built a life that only runs on balance. In this LaGrace Podcast she's candid that the balancing act, self, work, husband, kids, parents, friends, is exhausting and worth it, and that the women who can hold every sphere at once are living the fuller, happier lives.
It's a warm, grounded conversation about why professionals go unnoticed without presentation, playing the long game with clients over the quick payday, knowing your own capacity, money and trust inside a marriage, and the one value she says a woman must never lose: herself.
Key takeaways
Being professional is no longer enough
You have to present your work and connect with people, some less-skilled people shine on strong presentation while great work goes unseen. She'd rather not lament it: adapt to the times, AI included, than fall behind them.
Play the long game with clients
She's run events at a loss or break-even and never told the client. The goal isn't one big payday but a client who stays for years, she now decorates the birthdays of children whose christenings she once did.
Know your capacity, protect the balance
She once took every job, working till 3–4am, until her husband asked why she was doing this to herself. She capped her workload, because money you have no time to spend, and a family you never see, buys nothing.
Don't chase everyone's approval
She's made peace that not everyone will like her, only the opinion of people she loves and values weighs anything. Living that way, without expectations of strangers, is simply lighter.
Money doesn't break a healthy relationship
A secure man doesn't fear his woman earning or shining; if he does, it's his own insecurity. And an aware woman understands a business owner's money swings rather than reading them as a fixed wage.
Don't lose yourself
The easiest thing for a woman is to disappear into a partner, the children, the parents, or the career. Whatever brings you joy, a slow morning, a spa, friends, a film alone, don't forget yourself inside it.
Own your choices, even the mistakes made you
She'd change no important decision, the same husband, the same friends, no regrets. The mistakes and the stress taught the lessons that protect her now; nothing, she believes, happens by chance.
In practice
- Present your work, don't just do it well, a portfolio and human connection now matter as much as skill; adapt to new tools rather than resisting them.
- Play the long game with clients: eat a loss quietly if you must, a client who returns for years beats one big payday.
- Cap your capacity: know how much you can take on, and protect time for family, friends and yourself, or the money buys nothing.
- Don't forget yourself: schedule the thing that recharges you, a slow morning, a spa, a museum trip with the kids, and protect it.
“A woman's real power is keeping everything in balance.”
“A woman must never forget herself, no matter how much family or work there is.”
“Being professional isn't enough anymore; you have to know how to present your work.”
“It's 80% work, 20% luck, but you can't leave everything to luck.”
In this episode
- Entrepreneurship
- Work-life balance
- Motherhood
- Personal brand
- Resilience
- Women in business
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